As we've now moved into the new year, many of us think about how we've been and who we want to become....and it's become the season of New Year's resolutions!  With that in mind, I asked a friend of mine, Laura Saye, to do a guest blog on the topic.  Laura is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and Certified Daring WayFacilitator.  ~ Wendi

 

Living With Your Whole Heart,

Hope for the New Year 

 

As we reflect on the past year and make plans for 2018, set yourself up for success by developing goals and resolutions that are meaningful, measurable and attainable. 

 

Sure a gym membership is a great idea if you can actually use it. What I mean is this, our lives have become so busy and full that setting a goal that doesn’t keep in mind your already busy lives can lead to failing to reach your goal, giving up on your goal and feelings of hopelessness.  

 

C.R. Snyder who spent his career studying and researching hope teaches us that hope isn’t an emotion, but a cognitive thought process that is actually quite similar to setting an effective goal. First, we need to set a realistic goal, a goal that is actually attainable given the circumstances you find yourself in right here right now. Second, we need to identify activities to help us reach our goal. And finally, we have to believe that we can reach the goal. 

 

So, maybe our New Year’s Resolution is to increase exercise in the coming year and a gym membership is just the ticket. Now, we may decide we are going to go to the gym three to four times a week and work out for an hour to two each time, but what if you have children that need to be fed?  Maybe, you have a partner whose work shift is unpredictable? A dog that needs walking? Laundry that needs washing? Floors that need sweeping? Not to mention all the unexpected things that might come up, e.g. the washer breaks and needs repair, you get sick, you need to schedule an appointment for your kid or take the dog to the vet. Taking all of that into account, be sure to ask yourself if getting to the gym three to four times a week is realistic.  

 

So, how ‘bout starting out a little less ambitious and consider going to the gym once a week and maybe on off days making sure you take the stairs when you can, or treating your dog to a longer walk? This way, you’re still increasing your exercise, but you are identifying activities that make achieving the goal more realistic, more achievable and believable. 

 

By setting realistic goals we increase our chances of actually reaching our goals and creating a more hopeful outlook. Here’s to a 2018 filled with love, health, wealth, happiness and just a little more hope.

 

~ Laura Saye

http://www.laurasaye.com/

 

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